James "Jimmy" (lovers; 1986, deceased) Phillip Chancellor III (affair/one night stand; 1988-1989) Chase Benson (dated; 1990) Derek Stuart (dated; 1992) John Silva (dated; 1993) Ryan McNeil (affair/one night stand; 1993, deceased) Charles "Cole" Howard (dated; 1998) Tomas Del Cerro (dated/engaged; 1999-2000) Paul Williams (dated; 2010-2012)